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Comment on When Its Really for the Children by M Turner

M Turner — Sun, 24 Jul 2011 04:47:44 +0000

This is so real Alexis! More parents need to understand the importance of putting their differences aside and putting LOVE first. Or how about infusing LOVE in their differences. Hmmm. I work with so many college students on a daily basis. The church that my husband pastors is 99% 1st year college students and I’m seeing first hand, the product of broken, angry parents who are “staying for the kids sake” and it isn’t pretty.

What parents don’t realize is that their kids only see the anger and resentment. I would imagine that if more kids today, who live in homes where there are marital troubles, saw LOVE infused in their parents troubles, they would have a different perspective about life and themselves. They may even have a different approach to how to manuever in trials and stressful situations!

Comment on When Its Really for the Children by vswillis4242@gmail.com

vswillis4242@gmail.com — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 06:09:43 +0000

“For better or for worse” I strongly believe is for the mature minded adult. Marriage is sacred, entitled to reverence and respect, highly valued and important, a covenant made between the husband, wife and God. With that being said, we have a responsibility to get acquainted with and to get a clear understanding of what we have entered into before we say, “I Do.”

Although I do not advocate anyone staying involved in an abusive or adulturous relationship, the question then leads me to ask, when do we begin to teach our children about the power of prayer? If marriage is a covenant with God, can’t we believe that He will keep His covenant and restore what we believe is broken? Isn’t it God who can change the hardness of a heart?

Marriages are intended to be the foundation of order not only in our families but in our communities at large. Divorce not only has a negative impact in our childrens lives but let’s examine the adults who refuse to allow God to change and humble in a relationship that is designed to bring us closer to Him. So I believe when we divorce for any reason outside of abuse and adultry, we miss out on the true gift of maturing in Him because of our mere selfishness.

Comment on When Its Really for the Children by Calvin F. Harris

Calvin F. Harris — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 03:06:37 +0000

Wow! Seems like that was welled-up “somewheres” waiting for an opportunity!

Before I agree or disagree, let me say also that I stayed way to long, and it hurt everybody, including me, But we were talking about “staying for the children”, or at least saying that’s what we were thinking.

The children are pretty smart and isn’t it my job to teach them how to act, and what to expect, and then how to react? Am I supposed to teach them to stay in abusive and or loveless relationships? For me that’s the bottom line – “what am I teaching my child (or in my case, stepchild)”. As my son (I’m not his father but he’s my son) grew older he asked me “why did you stay?”

He resented my staying because he (also) felt that his mother should be punished for her behavior, as a matter of fact they have all rebelled in one way or another, but looking at what I was trying to accomplish in staying, and what it looks like now, I can honestly admit that it didn’t help; it hurt.

I think we have to have a greater awareness of what we are teaching our children (and each other) by example.

Love You with all my heart, keep saying what you gotta say!